This year I approached 10 years in the architecture profession. A little over 4 years licensed and almost 6 as a father. As I’ve said in some of my early blogs, I came into fatherhood in the midst of my Architectural Registration Exams. My growing family made my completion all the more sweeter. It’s no surprise then how Father’s Day revives sooo many feelings intertwined with my architectural passion. Although my daily life differs now than 3-4 years ago.
Related: See how I started I Am A Registered Architect
My time has shifted from making baby food and heating bottles to helping steer my children to the beginnings in the world of academia. This all while giving them room to investigate their own interests, forge habits for basic life skills and foster a sense of confidence in even their smallest of efforts. And let’s not forget the whole feeding, clothing and providing a roof over their head! It’s no easy task but they are my heart and I am rewarded daily.
Related: Read the first post Architect + Dad = ArchiDad
My daughter will be 5 in October. She is more reserved and definitely a fashionable girly girl. Thanks to my wife, she’s already gotten the hair, make up and nail care bug which she loves. Her dolls and dancing with music makes up an enjoyable day for her.
I think as their father, they’ve taught me almost as much as I’ve taught them. We all know the cliché quotes. Well it takes only one child to relate to them.
“Don’t take life so seriously.”
“Enjoy the moment.”
“They grow up so quickly.”
I am still struggling with not being so serious and also giving myself a break from work to relax. My overly analytical brain is always concocting new things to try, learn and master. I have to strategize my efforts efficiently and not take on too much.
Related: Failure is not the end of the world.
Image and all movie and design credit to Disney
An interesting conversation came up recently after watching a Disney movie called “Zombies.” Not what you think, it wasn’t a scary movie at all. In the movie, zombies are tamed due to a special wrist band and lead normal lives opposite a large ‘wall’ (segregated). They were always apart from average humans. After a change in policy zombie high schoolers were allowed to commingle in the regular human school.
Though they were allowed there, there was a fear (prejudice) of their motives and differences (diversity). My son comes to me and asked “Why don’t the people like them?” I explained that they were different and some people don’t like other people based on how they look or based on their customs. He replies “Well that’s not right and doesn’t make sense.” I hugged and kissed him acknowledging that he was absolutely correct but I had no good reason why it happens.
My son (and daughter) are all inclusive. They try to include everyone in every game or activity. Albeit sometimes to the detriment of their own safety #StrangerDanger. Then I must limit unknown interactions however their heart is always in the right place. In architecture or any other profession in this world, we could use that 5 year old mentality..
I have a saying I ask my kids after there’s been an altercation. They both know it by heart:
Are you helping, hurting or making things more difficult
What if us adult thought this simple phrase before we interacted with others?
See stories from other ArchiDads on this Father's Day:
Jeremiah Russell, AIA - ROGUE Architecture (@rogue_architect)
Eric T. Faulkner - Rock Talk (@wishingrockhome)
Brian Paletz - The Emerging Architect (@bpaletz)
Rusty Long - Rusty Long, Architect (@rustylong)
Jim Mehaffey - Yeoman Architect (@jamesmehaffey)
Mark Stephens - Mark Stephens Architects (@architectmark)
Larry Lucas - Lucas Sustainable, PLLC (@LarryLucasArch)
Steve Mouzon - The Original Green Blog (@stevemouzon)
Jared W. Smith
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